Sunday, November 2, 2014

The Sanctuary Between Paradoxes

It's been two weeks since my last published post, which must be an all-time record! I've actually written quite a bit in the interim but felt most of it was too personal and perhaps wouldn't resonate meaningfully with others. Basically, I've been grappling with the Life is Short; Do What You Love philosophy that has fueled me all year long. It feels like an energy that came on strong after being activated by a brush with death and needs to be worked with so it can be integrated gracefully and for the greater good.

I've wished I could put life on hold and retreat to a mountaintop for a few months to figure out how to proceed in the wake of my mother's passing, when it feels as if the rug has been pulled out from underneath me, and there's nobody looking out for me in a maternal way. The bottom line is that life is short, and I don't want to die with my magnum opus still locked inside me. That seems to be one of my greatest fears.

On the flip side of Life is Short; Do What You Love is the paradoxical realization that no external outcome is necessary to complete or "fix" me. There is no job, relationship, project, etc. through which to seek fulfillment because true fulfillment is ultimately an inside job. I've learned this from experience. It doesn't mean that any of those efforts are without value but that they are the icing on the cake of personal and spiritual fulfillment. At my core, I already am whole and complete. (And so are you.) I've never felt that so strongly. It's a matter of returning to that core and being receptive to the guidance that arises.


Resolution of the paradox creeps in silently as an invitation to enter the inner sanctuary and surrender to the mystery. I have been longing to meditate every day, knowing that when I sit on the cushion in front of my altar, behind my desk, or wherever, I will fill with light, rise above the waves of ordinary life, and engage with the present moment from a place of wholeness rather than deprivation or lack. What great pleasure to feel the warmth of the wood stove, inhale the earthy fragrance of incense, and accept the invitation from spirit to sit alone in a quiet, candlelit room and journey to the center of my being!


Inevitably, I returned to the realization that while trying to integrate Life is Short; Do What You Love in a way that doesn't upset the entire apple cart, the key is to love what you do. Love - or at least accept - what is. The full catastrophe of human life. Cultivate inner fulfillment by connecting with the present moment, regardless of external factors. When my pain-body (a term coined by Eckhart Tolle) is activated or I find myself in frantic pursuit mode (for example, burning the midnight oil with intense creativity that inevitably leads to exhaustion) and look outside of myself and the present moment for salvation, I feel like a sun that has forgotten her true identity and strength and wanders around at night trying to steal light from the moon (that, of course, only reflects the sun's light).


But the soul is patient. It is beyond time, not threatened by it. When you’re in flight from what is, you make your hell worse because you do the exact opposite of accepting and embracing the present moment, which is a portal to infinite possibilities and personal power. It's like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, thinking she was so far from home and then learning that the whole time she had the power to return in an instant. You can return - again and again and again - and connect with the light.


Even in my darkest hours of exhaustion and grief, I have discovered that I am able to experience how much larger I am than my feelings - that I can take one conscious, spacious breath and breathe over the top of them. I can put my hand on wherever I feel the tension in my body (usually the solar plexus area), breathe, and be present to it - and become aware of a much larger part of myself at the core of it all. I am grateful for experiences that provide me with the realization of how much more IMMENSE I am than anything I can feel! Who I AM can hold and support all of that. With awareness, there is no need to indulge in suffering and/or distraction for a moment longer. No need to give in to inertia or to be held hostage by emotions. How liberating is that?


What’s different for me this time around is that there’s no judgment or shame. It’s all feedback. I can see areas in which I’m resisting the present moment and shutting out blessings. It gives me material to work with. As my spiritual teacher advised during a group retreat two weekends ago, I can acknowledge that, while I might not have done this or that thing right or well, I am a being of light. I've recalled this advice numerous times, and it's quite powerful and empowering. You don't get sucked into spiritual or emotional quicksand.

 
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Reawakening to the inner light after wandering in darkness (whether in the form of exhaustion, waves of emotion, or any other kind of forgetting) is the most wonderful homecoming. It’s as if you prepared a nourishing, homemade meal then left the house for a short time. When you open the door and enter your home (i.e. the indwelling light) after being away, the comforting aroma welcomes you instantly. Had you stayed home the whole time, you would have grown accustomed to it and perhaps not have been able to smell and appreciate it at all. It’s as if you have to leave and return in order to experience how lovely and nourishing it really is. Strengthening that return reflex is what mindful awareness is all about. There is such joy in returning to the present moment, which is the only moment we truly have -  the bridge between paradoxes.


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2 comments:

Ron Owen said...

The Unbearable Lightness of Being is a great story. Thank you for sharing your insightful reflections Susan.

Susan Tara said...

Think I'm due to see that again - and you are so welcome! :-)

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